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Fchristó wrote:What should i do to my girlfriend and my best friend i caught them in my room having Sëx.
I wanted to travel out that day and left just to reach airport and get information that the flight is canceled for that day and that i should come the next day, just for me to get back home and saw the girl i trusted and believed wholeheartedly with my best friend having Sëx in my apartment.
A girl am training in the university because i want to make her my life partner who is already in her three hundred level in the university. What can I do to, please advise me.
Abisöyee wrote:I have a girlfriend who also has another guy before we met. She is currently seeing the both of us and I know about the other guy but he doesn’t know about me.
She tells me everything about the other guy but never wants the guy to know about me. I don’t understand it or what it is leading to. I am not really comfortable as when she is with me, she picks the other guy’s calls but if she is with him, she doesn’t take my calls.
She is however caring and nice to me and I can give my all to make her happy. We spend the night together almost every day but I a confused.
When the guy first found out about me, he was making trouble with her and we both decided that she will hide our affair from him till she is able to sort out things with him. We have been together for like three years now and she has even agreed to marry me.
I don’t know what to do, because of her I am thinking of relocating to somewhere far where I won’t be seeing her because am much too in love with her to handle losing her and still keep on seeing her. I am going mental and really need advice.
Tópsié44 wrote:There is this guy we have been dating for 4years, last week something happened that go him angry, to the extent that he doesn't want to talk to me.
I was privileged to have his phone which I checked his chat and so chatted with this girl that notice something was between them, which I confirmed that day, I tried asking him but instead of him to talk he got angry, though I know I was wrong >:(.
Been trying to explain and calm him down, to the extent that have asked his friends to beg him on my behalf, he's still not talking to me... Please I need you people advice on this, what do you think I can do.
And please no insults
Ogàśhub wrote:PEACE, i have been dating this girl since January this year. I really like her but there are so many things she does that makes me feel very uncomfortable with her and kills the trust i have for her.
She receives long calls from guys , it takes her time to reply my chats and she even talks to me disrespectfully. Something happened today...
Someone called me and threatened me to leave my girl friend alone for him and stuff . I tried to know who he was but he hung up. I've been trying to dial the number but its not been connecting.
When i got home , i asked my girlfriend if she has anything with someone else somewhere . She asked to know why i was asking her that ...but i asked her to answer me first but she insisted i tell her why i was asking .
I finally told her why. she asked for the caller's name and phone number which i refused to give to her until she gives me some explanations first.she picked up quarrel with me instead.
So out of annoyance i asked her to block me on fbk and whatsapp which she normally does whenever we are having misunderstandIngs. She insulted me and asked me to go to hell and blocked me off.
I have done a lot for this girl and trust me this relationship means a lot me. Whenever we quarrel,i'm usually the one who ends up begging even when its obvious i did nothing wrong.She always finds it very difficult to apologise.
I've even loosed some friends because of her . These were friends i used to share somethings with but i later stopped it because some things she does to me , i know if i share with them , they would definitely end up laughing at me.
Some girls dont just need someone that would be honest with them.They just wanna play!
Good morning all,
I am a 27year old lady. I went into a relationship with a young Ikwerre guy exactly a year ago, he is 31 years old and works in an oil servicing firm here in Port Harcourt, we grew so in love with each other but there were two problems.
First; I am a Muslim while he is a Christian, and the second being being that he told me when we began our relationship that he was already engaged to a lady who was doing her masters in Scotland.
I was devastated at first, but he was just so nice and our compatibility was like no other, I just couldn't afford to lose him so we continued our relationship despite pressure from friends and family to leave him because of his religion.(no one knows of his relationship status) we still stuck together and like no man I've known, he was completely faithful to me.
Around July this year, his girlfriend came back from Scotland and visited, he told me when she got in and even told me when she'd be visiting.
He promised me that things won't change, the only thing being I couldn't visit him at home..to make up for this, he came straight to spend time with me once he closed from work and then will go home to her.
I was really heartbroken then staying at home imagining what may have been going on with them. It was even worse when I called sometimes and he would not pick but will return the call later or in the morning.
She spent a week and went back to Calabar as she works with a Strategic Consultancy firm there. My boyfriend came back and told me to please understand that his heart truly belongs with me and that no one can take my place.
I however discovered from him that she came to conclude their marriage plans and that they were getting married in February 2016. I wanted to die, the thought of losing him was so painful, I was heartbroken and needed someone to cry to. He was with me all through this trying times assuring me that he'd forever be there for me and adviced me to take things easy.
All the while there was this guy that has been pestering me on whatsapp that he was crazy about me, begging me to give him a chance. I had always told him unequivocally that I was in love and in a relationship with someone else and warned him never to call me again.
This guy does not have a job, he is a petty soft drink retailer, a devout muslim and acts extremely timid and naive he has a HND in engineering. I told him I was not interested and he said I should give him a chance.
I then told him never to call me that if he was serious he should come and meet my family.
The next day he was in my house with his people that he wanted to marry me.
My parents accepted him as they wanted me to break up with the Christian. He said he wanted to perform the islamic traditional rites by that weekend and I said no way. My whole relatives and friends begged me to accept him.
But my only reason for this was that I didn't know how to face my friends if they learnt that my boyfriend who I boasted was the best in the world married someone else. So I wanted to marry before he did.
I told the muslim guy that I did not love him and confessed to him that I was pregnant for my boyfriend, he said he didn't mind, that he will claim the pregnancy, he has also said he will not even hug me till our wedding night.
I have aborted the baby as I took some drugs that made me bleed, my boyfriend wants me to keep the baby but we were cared that the drugs I took without his consent might affect the foetus or cause complications as the pregnancy progressed...the muslim guy does not know this
I do not know anything about him, I just know he still stays with his parents, and sisters and even has a sister who is back home from a failed marriage. There are a few fishy signs, he said he broke up with his ex and changed his lines because of her, that I consider as being callous.
He also said his mom always disapproves of his choice of women but that she accepted me because of my calm disposition..but i am not calm, I am very opinionated and temperamental when you get to really know me. So it means his parents are domineering. Whenever I don't take his call or tell him not to come see me, he calls all my family members reporting me.
I did not tell my boyfriend what happened and told him I wanted to let him move on, he probed further and I told him that someone had come for my hand in marriage.
He was really heartbroken that I stabbed him at the back, he said why did I not carry him along afterall he was always there for me. He was so heart broken and I felt so guilty, he said he will let me follow my heart and that he was hurt that I did not love him unconditionally. I begged him not to and almost killed myself when he told me to go my way.
We however made up and he started rationalizing it, telling me not to get married out of condition or compulsion. That my only fear was that I would share him with another lady but if I rushed into marriage, that the guy had the option to marry 3 more wives if it was not working with me and I will be stuck with my fear of forever sharing my man.
My boyfriend and his friends have begged me not to rush in to a marriage with some one I don't love but we have fixed the marriage date for December 4th this year. I do not love him at all and he knows I am still seeing my boyfriend, he says that love will grow that he will let me do whatever I want to.
My boyfriend wants to prevent me from making this mistake according to him and is trying to get me a job away from here so I can relocate and clear my head. He says he loves me selflessly and will not allow me go into an unhappy family.
This other guy said if we get married and I get a job he will allow me relocate. Please advice me what to do as I know I will forever love my boyfriend and this other guy is acting too suspicious.
Could this be love, what do I do now?
BrókenHéart2016 wrote:Right now my heart is heavy, am in a state of confusion I don't know what to do.On saturday I received the shock of my life through a text message from my girlfriend stating that I should move on with my life that it is over between us, at first I thought I was dreaming because I just got up from bed at exactly 7am.
I ignored the text thinking it was a mistake had to shower and get ready for work. The following day which happens to be on sunday I called her and She told me that she has think about it that I should move on with my life...its over!!!
I asked her what have I done to deserve such a thing from her she was unable to justify her action. O boy, my jaw drop e be like say dem use dagger pierced my heart have never experience such thing in my life.
I do read it online about how girls break up with their partner with no reason I can't believe this is happening to me. This is a girl that I really care for we met during our National Diploma program in 2012, she will be graduating this year while am about to put in for my HND.
Am not boasting about what have done for her but I just want you guys to understand my plight, I help her financially during her two years of studies pay her school fees and other miscellaneous while am still hustling.
During our five years of courtship have never thought of cheating her or dump her for no reason I always make sure she's comfortable because her parents has passed.
Since saturday my life have never been the same because the tone of text msg always ring on my head, am so sad right now I can't think straight anymore my boss at work notice my mood today and ask me what's up with me I had to dodge the question....till now.
I always look at my phone hoping to see her call or text maybe she was joking with me, I really love her so much and I always express my love to her though am not financially bouyant at the moment but I always do everything in my capacity to ensure she is Ok...
There was a time i use money meant for my handouts to buy her foodstuffs and all, have sacrifice a lot for her during our academic days I finished with Lower Credit while she has Upper Credit.
I'm not jealous of her success but frankly speaking I make impact in her life in general, I do see her as the mother of my kids there are a lot of plan I have for her, we always discuss this all the time. Right now she school in osun state while am hustling here in oyo state but I always travel to visit her from time to time and shower her with a lot of gifts.
Pls I need your advise on how to move on with my life because right now the thing is affecting my life I can't think straight anymore or even sleep very well. Bashing is also allowed I just want u guys to talk sense into my head.
Sorry for my grammatical blunders
dàmmyjày93 wrote:Hello people, I'm really in a hell of a situation right now. I've been dating this girl for about 2 years and we're both in our 20's.
Truth be told I love her, I really do, but over time its getting intimate and by the day she's getting more n more attached to me and although I love her I'm not a long term reltnshp kinda guy as this is d first reltnshp I've had that lasted this long.
Recently I tried breaking up and it was catastrophic she was broken n cried on me n all stuff cos she was "over attached", I felt really bad n tried to make up things.
She asked me "where I saw myself wt her in d future?" But the truth is I don't even know what d future holds for me nt to talk of planning for two. I feel stuck between breaking up and damning all to be with her tho I know if after being with her for a number of years and something happens its gonna break her completely and be a set-back.
Pls I need mature and honest advice.
jōhń1964 wrote:Hi guys I know nairaland ain't the perfect Place to come asking for advice but I have no one to confide to, am this kinda person that find it hard sharing personal issues with someone I know, When I read people write about their personal love life issues I find it very funny sha..lol..
Not knowing I'll one day face mine and be forced to share it. Been dating this girl for 3 years now am in the university, 400L while she's in her 300L presently, she's always cared and loved me undoubtedly since day 1, always had back in school both financially and others too and we've always had this plan for a future together, coz I strongly believe and know our love was real.
The bond we had was just so strong, suddenly I had an issue with school which brought me back though. Sadly Had to start all over from 100L it hurts me so much, though all the time have been going through this dilemma, she's always tried encouraging me and pushed me not to give up on my dream.
I was almost thinking so negative when I had this school ish, thought about killing myself thinking the world was over. But this lady stood by me and never gave up on me and convinced me that killing my self wouldn't help matters (I was really a mess then, like a HUGE mess) didn't go out much, had to stay in school a whole year preparing all over again for jamb nd all that, tho still attending lectures.
Now, when I had this issue that was were my dreams started shattering, our future wasn't looking all bright anymore because now am starting all over again, when I'll be in my 100L she'll be in her 300L and on and on like that..
It really broke my heart, at some point she believes in me and tries to convince me things would be better and I'll definitely scale through, But most times there's just this little doubts that comes in, You Ladies are prone to marry early (and she's very cute) which is actually a huge A+,
Men have always been coming asking for her hand in marriage and she has always declined them.. But she ain't getting any younger, and has to get married someday, sadly she told me yesterday she really do love me so much and has always had my back always and supported me always and which is so true that she has just decided to give me some lil break so I can try sorting my self out and balancing my life.
And she has decided to agree to one of her suitors(the guy is quite close to her family/ he's financially stable too tho the guy has a lil kid sha I guess his a single dad) coz she's always told me about ppl asking for her hand in marriage, though they ain't getting married now.
But at least she wants to face him, instead of pushing away all her suitors and in the future wen she graduates and am Still in school, it might not be easy for me to be financially stable easily, tho she begged me that Pls hope I wouldn't paint her as a bad person coz she really tried for me.
I've just been really down since she told me this and it's really affecting me so much tho what she says is sadly the truth, Have just really built my life around her and she's just the only one I confined to in school when I have issues (coz am really this typa person who don't flows and share things easily with anyone, I kinda hv trust issues)
Don't really know how I'll cope when Am back to school, we leave close to each other in school, and she still really wants to be friends with me and wants to always support me too. Don't really know what to do right now [b]I really do love her so much[/] because she's an amazing person who has just been by my side through really hard times in school, it wont be easy starting Just as friends right now, I really do have a mild heart.
Wish I could rewind the hands of the clock and correct the mistake I made that made me start all over again.. It's just really sad
Pls if I made a mistake with my typing, don't attack me.. Just really down now
vàlnélly wrote:As I write this.... I'm filled with so much hurt and regret. My girlfriend whom I thought would be patient enough for me so I could get married to her has broken up with me.
I met her while I was writing my final year project in Yabatech about 4 years ago. We were cool together and the distance between us didn't mean that much to me even though she stays in ikorodu and I stay in surulere.
The problem started when I gained admission to Unilag due to my decision for self development. I'm 31 years old and she is 25.
During the last 2 years I noticed she has changed drastically I notice that she now has stuffs like new shoes and new bags. Which of course ordinarily she wouldn't have been able to afford.
The only time we see is on weekends and that's because she is still in Yabatech schooling and sometime when she comes like that she acts funny with phone calls. The way she talks to some certain people so suspicious. But none the less she always feels cool with me and always wants to be around me. Could it be because of Sëx?
I noticed that she behaves single at school and even on social media. We do not chat or use social media, we added each other but at a point I had to take her off because she doesn't portray any thing that shows we are actually dating...i took her off all platform of social media and she wasn't perturbed about it.
I don't actually know what's going on in school or her place of residence but I have a very strong feeling that she has been cheating on me and some other guy have been buying her things I can't get for her.
But on top of this she was actually looking for school fees and I was deploying all methods to make sure she pays this on time and that alone made me confused!. We had a heated argument on Sunday and she was yelling and talking back at me...
I left the house for her in annoyance only for me to come back and she is gone. She left a note that says that she is no longer interested. Guys please what should I do. I love this girl so frigging much.
I can't sleep or think straight right now. It's almost impossible for me to start all over again. I feel hopeless. Please guys your advice!
Slímmybódy wrote:Okay, I will go straight to the point.
Me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 years now but I feel like opting out of the relationship. Any time we have misunderstanding or issues, she goes days keeping malice. Even when she is at fault, she just says "sorry" and thereafter turn the whole thing to an emotional blackmail.
Many a times I tried to settle whatever issue we had (without off course loosing my self respect), but my peaceful moves often seem like I am adding petrol to fire. I will go days trying to make her understand the effect such action is having on our relationship, but that doesn't move her. I am someone that can't go a day keeping grudges.
I have talked to her several times on this attitude of hers whenever she is in good mood, she kept saying she would adjust, but then it's the same.
Although we are preparing to have our traditional marriage soon, I feel like taking a walk out of the relationship, because the whole thing as simple as it sounds, is freaking me out. This is my first love and I have never cheated on her because I believe that rather than cheat, take a walk.
Please, I need your sincere advice.
Shósvégas wrote:Please nigerians I need your advice on my girl that had too hot temper and i'm tired of her, everyday im correcting her on one thing and we been dating for years.
I don't know wat to do anytime she got an angry she dosnt mind her speech wit me at all, the one she did last, we are arguing on one thing next thing she said was that i should go to hell.
And thereafter she will be beging me. should i forgive her or wat.? please help, this is the girl that i love wit all my heart wil been dating when she was a kid for years.
obisīme wrote:I be dating my girl's friend for 8 years,she is 26 is years old.I lost my respect when I lost my job ,which I can not take care of her needs the way I use take of her.she break up with me last year December , it was very painful,but I have force my self to be.
I reconcile with her last four month, try to help her for her needs and also pay her school and buy new laptop for her. She said I should permit her to finish her Exam before we can talk about our relationship, which I agree.
She have a bad Character, she talk to me in way I don't like,I was concidering her because I have not sit down and discus my policy with her for what I don't tolerate because I have to give her chance for her exam & am just reconciling wit her.
I called her last week,but she abuse me in a way I did not like because I did not give her money last 2 weeks. The reason why i did not give her, i have to help my senior sister,she lost his husband,so I have to assist her because his husband is d only Child so I have to assist her by sending his husband dead body to Abia state.
I went to see my girl last week Sunday to give her money she will use to take care of her self 4 d week,because this is what i normally do. Am in to car dealer busines,I normally receive call all d time because I do post my car through Internet.
My girl friend insult me because of the calls I pick & Dis is where I make money ,she said that I don't know my right that I can't control her,that if she get married to me she will beat me.
She insulted me in front of her friends. Am the type of guy that have hot temper but I hold my peace ,I did nt say any thingn,I only gave her d money I want to give her than I left .please I need advice
LílChàmp wrote:I am currently in a relationship of 4 years, I started dating when I was in the University then she was in 100 Level, since then alot has happened.
I remember a day when she called me that her mum sent her to give a guy who was his family friend food stuffs in his apartment, then she was staying in the school hostel and just came back from home.
I later got to know she wasn't related to the guy in anyway, they were only primary school mate but she gave me that excuse in other to visit the guy in his apartment. Alot of other lies which I can't explain all through this forum.
Now that she is currently serving far away in an eastern state, I called her this night but she wasn't picking up, also called her friend whom they stay in the same hostel but she told me she is outside and not currently in the room.
I later gave up after calling her like 40times without picking up. At around 10:00pm she flashed me with a number, when I called her back she said she misplaced her phone and she is currently looking for it, she told me she has informed the OBS crew in camp and they are making efforts in helping her recover the phone.
She later called back with her phone and informed me she has seen it that same night.
I don't know why I didn't believe her and I insisted on knowing what really happened and why she hasn't been picking my calls.
It was after she knew I wasn't ready to believe what she told me that she later opened up that she knew her phone was ringing and didn't misplaced it. I challenged her that she must have been with a guy outside at night, though she denied it at first and later opened up that I was right.
The truth is I have been totally faithful to her and always believed she is the right girl for me. I don't know what to do at this Junction, I really need advice because I don't know if I should still hold on or not.
Onyêjemechīmere wrote:so I fell in love with this girl earlier this month , and went for her, luckily for me, she agreed. We’ve been dating for the past two weeks now , and something that baffles me , is the fact that she hasn’t gotten over her ex boyfriend.
At times she compares me to him, Mocks me when am incapable of doing something her ex seems to know how to do. She cries a lot whenever her ex name is mentioned randomly, Or when She remembers some memories ,Or Glance at some of his pictures.
I confronted her the other day to clarify some issues, but she says I should give her some time. I even adviced her not to force herself into any relationship with her current situation, when I called for a breakup so as for her to get herself together, she refused and said I should just give her time and that she is not ready to lose another guy.
am confused right now and don’t know what to do this is a girl I love very much, and not ready to lose. But it seems to me that she is trying to use me to get back to her ex.
Please I could use a little advice?
ŤKO9O7 wrote:I'm into a relationship which is 4yrs old and the lady is someone that i loved so so much and i even introduced her to my parent as the girl i intend to marry and from the way she treats me also, i have this deep feeling that she even loves me more than how i love her.
But few months ago, I just wish to tease her and i ask her if she has slept with another guy since we started dating and sincerely, i was expecting her to be angry for even asking her such question but to my surprise after asking her several time and promising her not to use it to react to her.
She eventually told me that she slept with somone else and her excuse was that it was due to the fact that we actually parted for like 7 months which was due to my NYSC program which the distance was far for her to pay me visit. To cut d story short.
I still love her but their is this second thought that comes to mind once in a while what if work has to take me away from her for some months when we get married, hope there will not be a repeat of such?
Pls i need a serious minded person to contribute cos the trust i have for her was not like before anymore.
Fàyose4réal wrote:Morning guys, there is this lady we have being dating over 4 yrs now, she is ok by me as we match each other perfectly, our relationship has being wonerful we live together through out our school days & even up till now.
So i am the one providing food & taking care of her and truly i wasn't complaining as i do it with lot of joy because her mother died when she was ten years of age & her father is not financially buoyant.
So because of the love i have for her i willingly and happily took up her responsibilities, due to the fact that i have my personal business which is bringing me money when i was in school, though she was the one paying her school fees her self then because she is not a lazy type that depends wholly on another.
Her father could send some & she would add the rest from the petty she use to save. We both finished our ND programme in 2013 with upper credit in SLT, so we decided to cross to university through D.E, but unfortunately we were not offered admission to university.
So i quickly returned to road construction as i am an excavator operator before gaining admission to ND. That was the 1st time we were separated by work since we started our relationship, my working place then was far so i used to send her money for her feeding every month.
I knew for sure construction work is not reliable, & she will be starting her HND early 2015 so i decided to set up a viewing center business for her to be able to take care of her self and her HND school fees so that if the worst happened in my working place we will still be on a safer side & be secured.
I spent all my savings on setting up the business (over 270k) but couldn't complete it so i had to borrow (100k) from her to complete it. The reason for choosing that kind of business was to give her enough time to study as well as maintain the business at the same time, as matches are being played on weekends & any match that falls on midweek will be 7.45pm or 8.45pm.
So i know it wont affect her studies. But unfortunately the business didn't excel due to the area, & fortunately for me again i got employed to the Nigeria Immigration then so i had to leave the construction work, & due to this fact we decided she try another DE because she loves medical line (nursing), & since i thought i was an immigration officer by then i agreed to sponsor her through it.
3 months of training no salary & i had spent all i had on that business which is not moving a bit, by that time i dont have anything like money again, to add more to my trouble we were suspended after 3 months of training till further directive, & dont forget that she is still on her HND, so i sold the viewing center at the rate of 150k & returned the 100k i borrowed from her 4 the business.
Fastforward to why am writting this epistle, when there is no sign from immigration that they will call us back, i decided to have a plan B if eventually they refuse to, so i told her that i will have to return to school for my BSc, hearing this from me this lady was so furious, she was so annoyed, she started saying all sort of things that she is 26 yrs of age now that how can i expect her to wait for another 4yrs before getting married, that God forbid bad thing in her life, that she can never wait that long for any man.
I was so confused that i didnt even know what to say, i was now thinking that is this how life is, is this girl using me for her benefit or what, the same girl that wanted to abandon HND for 5 yrs nursing programme at university when i got employed, same girl is now claiming she cant wait for me if eventually i go back to school.
The 2nd day i got a call from the previous construction company that i should resume immediately so i rushed there to resume since i dont have any source of income at the moment.
We later discussed the issue & she apologized for saying harsh things, & she is acting normal from the day of our discussion, but to my greatest surprise when i returned home on month ending break, this girl is now refusing my sexual advances towards her.
Pls i need ur advice, what is happening to me?. Pls don't mind my grammatical error & my lengthy write up.
I met this awesome guy a month ago, we fell in love with each other and started dating. Later discovered he had a girlfriend somewhere and still loves her so much.
I started nagging cos I let go of every other man in my life just to be with him and he wasn't willing to do same. Guess I nagged too much about it and now he wanna leave.
I don't wanna lose him, haven't met anyone like him before. I've sent numerous messages and calls to apologise and promised to forget about the other lady but it seems he has made up his mind.
Please what do I do ? Took me a long while to find him , don't want to lose him . I 'm 23 years old.
záràmgrând wrote:Hello, pls a friend needs your advice on this critical issue.
I have this guy, I've known him for over 4 years now, I met him my first year in the university, then he was in 300level so he graduated before me and also helped me alot through my stay in school as he is very intelligent.
Right now I have graduated also, my friendship with this guy is a bit complicated, we are dating and at the same time not dating.
Let me explain, He asked me out but during that time I was traumatized bcs I caught my ex whom I loved so much cheating on me, he was my first boyfriend. So at that time I started going out with him just to get my ex off my mind and along the line we had Sëx, after then we became more close but our closeness has nothing to do with me loving him, I discovered he has so many weaknesses and I decided to help him cover them up.
Example, he's too dirty, he doesn't take care of himself, he doesn't pay attention to his environment, I mean he knows nothing about life aside books and books alone...He acts like a child Wen it comes to everyday issues, people also cheat him alot and use him but I took it upon myself to always stand for him and see that no one mistreats him....
I have told him countless number of times that I can't marry him but he will always kneel down and beg me which I end up staying with him again, not bcs of his weakness but bcs all this while I never developed any feelings for him....
also I've always wanted a man who will be in control, a man who will correct and scode me Wen I do something wrong not a man that I will be controlling and scoding..recently about a year ago I met a guy, we've been friends and he's much interested in me. I have feelings for him maybe bcs he possess Wat I want from a man....
Just some months back my old friend lost his job and I took it upon myself to see that he's fine till he gets another job. I give him money every two days for upkeep, I do all these just so he doesn't end up doing anything illicit bcs he's easily dragged about by friends....
At the same time I'm begging him to move on and find another girl, but he's traumatized and I'm feeling bad about the whole issue... I don't wanna look like a bad person and I feel his pain. I told him even though I'm leaving him I am gonna still be caring for him till he gets back on his feet and I will still make sure no one mistreats him not even his new girlfriend.
But he's making it difficult for me to move on, his please and cries are weighing me down and I'm totally confused....Again the other guy I met I don't knw how he behaves totally.
I'm so scared of guys bcs of most marriages I see around me, I don't knw if the other guy will make a good husband or not although he's been taking care of me which part of the money he gives me plus some of the ones I earn are Wat I give to the other guy for upkeep..pls not that
I'm 24, my old friend is 32 and the new guy is 29 ... Pls Nairalanders just advice me on what to do, don't mind my long and unorganized story, I hope u make a sense off it..
FutùreLéàder00 wrote:Let me not bother you with too much stories, I will keep it short and concise.
My girlfriend has been acting strange lately and I couldn't find the reason why she's doing so. We started dating last year while I was still looking for admission, things has been going smoothly for us not until after ileya festival.
Before then, she celebrated her birthday on the 23rd of August this year had to sent a message to wish her, although I was around for ileya holiday as we both live in ibadan but am schooling in osun state.
She came to visit me on ileya festival(friday) which we talk extensively about her birthday, we both discuss on how to celebrate her birthday since I wasn't around then so we resorted to go to the cinema and have some few drinks.
Also, I promised to get her some women undies as a gifts before I left for school.
I ought to have been in school by now because the festive holiday has come and gone but have told her that I would love to spend some days with her before I leave. Before she left my house of friday I asked where she will be for the weekend, she told me she won't be around on saturday but sunday will be okay so I made up my mind to visit her on sunday and use the opportunity to see her mom and sibling.
I called on saturday to check on her but she inform me that she couldn't go out due to headache, the following day which was sunday I called her severally she didn't pick my call neither return all the messages I sent to her not until yesterday when she picked and told me that she intentionally not to pick my call because I wasn't caring enough for her. Asjed her what exactly have I done wrong, she said I didn't care for her meanwhile have been calling since sunday just to check on her but she didn't pick my call, mehn I was shocked!!.
As a gentle guy wey I be I asked for frogiveness and repeatedly told her "I'm very sorry" countless of time she cut off the line on three occassion, I was very furious by her action yet I keep cool had to call her once again she told me there's nothing she wants to discuss with me anymore except what she just did.
Till now, she hasn't pick all call neither reply my messages.
Now, have bought those things I promise to get her like pads, panties, bra, bum-short, and those girly things I even sent a text to inform her that have gotten her my promises she didn't reply me.
Pls I need your advice on how to go about this because it making me so sad.
below is the screenshot of my text messages I sent her
Help me to move it to the front page
UPDATE here http://www.Nairaland.com/4043256/update ... s-pants#up
Marísól911 wrote:So, this guy claims he loves me, buys me stuffs, calls me and gvs me attention. He's trying to show me he loves me but I'm not feeling the guy.
I mean, i think abt other guys and prefer to press phone when he's around me, i feel he's invading my personal space when he calls morning afternoon , night to know my whereabts. I can't hold any reasonable conversation wth him cos i practically don't know what to say to him.
Meanwhile I'll be quickly referred to as a talkative by other guys.. Ive told him times without number that i don't love him and that I'm not the gal for him but he wont take no for an answer. He says he knows ill grow to love him, that i just don't know it yet.
I want to let him go so i have decided to cut off all communications with him. Right now I have not picked his calls since two days ago. I hope im doing the right thing, and hope its not a case of ignoring the ones that truly love us...
bêtwithblàze wrote:I have been dating my girlfriend for a year now. We really love each other as things went on and we got to know each other better.
She had Lil problems with trust issues so she initially found it difficult to trust me. We are presently schooling in different schools and we don't live in the same city as well. As times went by, she soon found out about my faithfulness, honesty and loyalty which made her love me the more.
I trusted her and believed that she would reciprocate the same measure of honesty and loyalty that I've shown her over the times. She gave me enough reasons to trust her, of which I didn't hesitate.
We kept having good times not until things went sour during the last asuu strike when she visited me. I randomly went through her facebook chats and lo and behold I came across this mess - it was a chat between her and another guy. They were into stuffs like real stuffs.
I immediately called her and showed her the chat. Her excuse was that it was during my exams she had to hook up with the dude due to the fact that she couldn't get enough of my attention as at then. God of mercy.
She broke up with him by sending him a text in my presence. I sent her off but she kept begging me in tears until I considered things as a mature guy and forgave her. Since I accepted her back, she has been trying to cook up things that are far beyond my understanding.
Each time she gets me pissed off and I complain she would relate it to that issue of the past, instead of apologizing. She would then try to blame me for referring to the past, of which I never had in mind.
I tried my very best to make her understand this but she wouldn't. She would seldom complain about me not trusting and loving her anymore. We now have issues on a daily basis, and it pisses me off big time. Please guys, what do you really think is the best way out. Thanks.
teflònbúzz wrote:I have 100 percent proof my gf is cheating on me. We were living together for over a year in Dallas before we moved to different cities in the U.S.
I found out about her sexcapades from her email which I happen to know the password without her knowing. I am still contemplating how to handle it because what she has done is horrible but she has been too good to me before now.
I really love this girl and I know she loves me because she has made sacrifices that no other gf has ever made for me and cried a lot when we moved to separate cities. When we were in college in Texas, this girl used to support me morally, financially, spiritually and sexually.
She sold her car at some point to help me pay off my tuition debts. Yes! she is that good. We were making plans for the future before this long distance thing happened out of necessity. She started sounding somehow lately and I decided to dig and found that she has been having an affair with another guy in Illinois where she is currently.
I saw their Erotïc convos about their bleeping, her messages asking him to bleep her and vice versa, pictures of their private parts which they exchanged, hotel receipts, plane tickets to vacations, convos of how they are having a good time etc.
I am so depressed and have had to see a psychologist because of this. I don't know how to handle this because of the way I found out and because I don't wanna loose her forever; besides this the girl is really any man's dreams cos she is very pretty, kind and intelligent even though she has a bad temper sometimes.
It is partly my fault because for sometime I was not calling her as much but it was cos the things I was busy with not cos I was cheating or anything like that. I JUST HATE THIS SITUATION.
I don't know how I can move on from here. I had thought I found the one for real but now this! She was all I wanted. Is it love carrying me through or am I being stupid? It's okay to be sincere and tell me I am stupid now cos I just feel all kinds of way. Love is really a damn tragedy! I need opinions...it may help before I board a plane to Illinois and do something really really stupid.
AhmaráKruz wrote: Please advise me.
Since 2014, a certain young man i met on Facebook has been asking me to marry him. I've met him severally, as he stays in the same state as myself. I sometimes spend the weekends at his place. He loves me to the core but i do not feel the same way about him. He is a gentleman to the core, has never asked me for Sëx.
He washes my clothes, my panties. Everything i wear. He even cooks for me.
He is a young man who earns about sixty thousand a month. He is not cute. he is not an eyesore either.
My problem with the young man is that i have no physical attraction whatsoever for him.
I hates it when he touches me. I feel irritated when i hear him breathe heavily. I just do not like him and i have been telling him off for more than 2 years now, but he is too stubborn. He assumes i will come around but i know i won't.
How can i marry someone i know i can not even hug?
I can control him, which is good for marriage.
If eventually i marry him which will never happen except i'm an idiot, which i am not, he will do everything i ask him to do.
That apart, i know i will never be faithful to him because i don't feel anything electric for him.
Should i marry him? If no, how do i tell him NO so his thick skull can register it?
Irélokéh wrote:Hey great Lander's, thanks a lot for your encouraging advice's (some were funny tho) on my failed attempt to love.
I fell for a lady mumuishly few months ago after Aphrodite struck me dangerously. She said she had no feelings for me apparently and just wants to be friends, it was unimaginably painful but I moved on.
I initially tried to win her but it seemed she was getting more unfriendly, she ignores messages, never calls. So I noticed I was the one forcing conversations always so I stopped and moved on. I returned to my normal life infact I even feel better.
I don't think I can be persistent on a lady that Doesn't feel a thing for me but would be tripping for other guys, Jeez am not prince charming but I know my worth! I'm a friend to some, a son to two and a brother to plenty.
So since I stopped giving a hoot about her I don't call her or text her she sees my presence but I don't care. Yesterday she called me (what! She?!!) and we talked but she then said I was snobbing her and I just laughed and told her I was busy (Busy my f*ot)!
But like an idiot again I'm feeling like I still feel for her slightly, I don't want to conclude guys what do you think?
Léákdæddy wrote:So I literally showed this idiot babe all the signs I liker and loved her for over 3 months.
She was a broke girl, I fed and cared for her for 3 good months cox we lived in opposite lodges in the university.
How would I have known the b itch was just like other b itches I've met in the past... How would I have known the guy I was actually planning on making my best friend in my lodge was the guy she'd be flirting around with in my presence.
The one that seems to crack my head the most was the event that happened yesterday. This idiot girl had the gust and audacity to rub it in my face that I'm a loser. We were having a lodge party... I was sitting close to this guy I was about to start calling best friend.
The idiotic bit CH who ate my food and fooled around with me came to this guy, asked him for his key and told him she will be sleeping inside waiting for him.
Don't know how to write well or narrate this well, but I tell u guys, that moment... The bottle of origin I was drinking fell from my hand. Had to clean my face with my hands to make sure it was really her hu just said that.
I was so disappointed and heart broken.
Someone I was expecting a positive reply from after all the care and everything. This girls are bunch of idiots... Guys pls anywhere u see them just f uck them and leave them.... Never ever spend anything on their heads if u haven't f ucked them. They are really stu pid. Foolish creatures
ggrín wrote:My best friend slept with my boyfriend, I still love my boyfriend and I think we are going to be together again, but I cannot get it out of my head what both of them did to me.
My boyfriend said we were on a break when it happened, they were totally smashed and had Sëx. My friend has been my best friend for like nearly ten years, and she very well knew, break or not, how passionately in love I am with him.
Her excuse that it was that she was just really drunk and lonely and he was just there. His excuse is that we were on a break. While we were on this break about 2 months ago, I kissed someone else , wrong, I know, but I was honest with my boyfriend about it when we decided to get back together, he kept throwing it in my face, guilt tripping me about kissing someone else while we were on a break.
Then come to find out on that same break he had slept with my best friend but failed to tell me about it. But through all of this, I still love him, but hate him at the same time from taking away my best friend from me ...I really love this guy ...I don't know what to do
AmázíngM wrote:Good evening my dear nairalanders. Please I need your honest opinion on this issue because I am very confused now that I don't know what to do.
I have been dating a guy for about three years now. Every thing has been going well. He claims he loves me but he doesn't spend on me. He knows I am still job hunting that I don't have any means of income of my own but he doesn't care at all.
How I feed, cloth, recharge my phone, he doesn't know. He doesn't even ask how I cope with all my basic needs as a woman. He doesn't recharge my phone and when I manage to recharge with the little money I have and call him, he won't even reject or ignore the call and call me back knowing well that I don't work. He will make sure he exhausts the little airtime. It is not as I he doesn't have the money, he has it.
In fact he is very comfortable but he doesn't spend on me. I am a type of lady that doesn't know how to ask for money but I expect him to know that since I am not working yet, he should assist me with some of my needs but if I don't ask, he will do nothing.
I am thinking of leaving him because of this attitude I feel he is taking advantage of my nature. Please help me out. I want to know your take on this issue before I take action. Thank you.
cásá101 wrote:First pls all the married men that allows their wives to attend a different church from the one he attends pls it's very bad, stop it.
It's been 7 months we starting seeing(fu#king) each other but am yet to officially ask her out BC she is 4yrs(33yrs) older than me.
We meet in a church love feast/program which my cousin forced me to follow her to like 7 months ago.
I normally see her on Sundays bc after church she drives to my house like for a month but during that first month we stay in her car downstairs bc she was so scared of Dogs and note she doesn't wear her ring while coming to see me. In fact I hv never seen her with a ring till today(this afternoon).
We started from there. One thing led to another till we discovered that we are so so into each other so I decided to invite her over my place(like into my house) bc I have eventually built a cage downstairs for my dog.
So she was now able to come up on her 5th visit were she told me she is 33 & single but the age won't be the problem that lets enjoy ourselves then from there we will see if dating is a possibility. Like that the "sexcapede" started
To cut the story short..
Today my aunty called me to go and help her pick her kids from school that she wont be able to make it.. When I got there and i was seated inside my car waiting for their dismissal.. I saw a familiar car pulling over a pole ahead of me.
I quickly recognized it. She came down entered the school picked her kids by then I was already walking down towards her. Then I heard the kids calling her "Mum" like Mum I want to take icecream. I was shocked and the first place my mind went to was her hand and I saw her wedding ring which I have never seen her with before.
I then intentionally asked her in front of the kids.."madam are they your kids??.. But bc she didn't know how she will deny them there and with the presence of other parents picking their own children. She said YES.
Fast-forward she is now calling me telling me that she loves me and I should not leave her. That her husband don't bleep her well. But I was like but your husband provides for you and your kids and your still married to him.. She just dey cry over the phone..
The truth is that I can't even continue with it BC I have always told myself I won't sleep with someone's wife so that nobody will do that to mine.. Now my conscience is killing me here
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