JUST DO IT WHEN IT HURTS
Here is a (body building) question asked by a Clefer.
2. I decided to work on my outside appearance as I also work on the "inner game."
Good decision. Everyone should do it.
3. I have been trying to eat myself into fatness so that I can eventually gym it off but it's not working. No matter the amount of food consumed, I still remain thin.
If you don't naturally have the frame, growing it fast is not by food, but state of mind and rest. (stress free life). Mental + Real exercise.
4. I remember @iLegend's story on NL where he said he was thin and people were body-shaming him so he decided to hit the gym.
Yes. (Painful story. Thanks to 50 Cent's baggy clothes. God bless him.)
5. He eventually came back to start oppressing other people at the pool.
Yes, but "he" wasn't really oppressing, but comfortable to take off clothes anywhere with confidence.
6. So, my question is, can I start gym now or I should look for a way to grow fat, then gym?
Start gym now.
Title: JUST DO IT WHEN IT HURTS
A Short Story of iLegend and His Secret Motivation Techniques to JUST DO IT WHEN IT HURTS
There are three things you need to move from thin to muscular.
1. Pain: there MUST be someone who has made fun of you to the point of thinking of either suicide or doing anything possible to get out of this humiliation in the future.
This is where the courage, determination, and burning desire to turn things around come from. The moment you have this pain, you're 90% ready. Without this pain, you'll always end up giving up.
2. Equipment: You need a tool. Any kind of tool.
3. Mentor: There are lots of mentors on YouTube. Pick the one you like and follow his videos bumper to bumper as if your life depends on it.
Fat people get angry when people called them fat. It's a #fact. They prefer chubby. Skinny people get angry when people call them skinny. You weren't comfortable using the word "skinny" instead you used "thin."
Short or extremely tall also get angry. Everyone gets angry when it comes to anything about ridicule of the body. We're too cautious not to get hurt. Emotional pain is the real pain of success out of sweet anger.
Those who take advantage of this anger and take sweet actions, become the fit or muscular ones.
The rest procrastinate because they don't have number 1, PAIN, associated with their training.
No pain, no gain.
This is the secret
The pain is not a physical pain, but emotional. With physical pains, men give up, but with emotional, physical pains will feel like nothing.
A heartbreak where the man or woman invested lots of trust and emotion hurts more than physical pains.
Have you witnessed a scene where a man had an accident and sustained some painful injuries, but he's there looking at his ghastly damaged vehicle while wondering how he managed to survive this.
At this point in time, he's in the emotional and spiritual realm. He will not feel those physical pains, because they don't exist in the emotional or spiritual world. What exists there is either "Wow! I can't believe this, but now I believe." Or "Yes! I must do it NOW and it must be NOW."
When you're in this state of mind, you won't even know if giving up exists. At a stage in your life, this "not giving up" becomes second nature and it extends to other parts of your life. (I'll share a funny story of when I started posting on Nairaland and how I started Wetclef.)
When I conceived the idea of this forum, so many people made bad comments. The reasons this forum is still here are because of those comments.
If not for them, we would've shutdown. I associated their statements with "pains" and "mockery." So, I had no choice than to prove them wrong by using the power of pain.
This is the main secret of achieving anything you want in life. IT WORKS like magic every time, so it's not by food, but pain to push you to start and achieve like a boss.
Here is the story of how not to be moved by negativity or laziness, instead, turn it around and smile at last.
In May 2016, I was Buharized. Meaning: flow of income wasn't as steady as it used to. I started surfing the net and a thread opened on Nairaland. It was fun. I fell in love with some comments.
I was about creating an account and it hits me that I already have an account on Nairaland which I created in 2011 but didn't use it because the forum looked outdated to me. As a young fellow, and a programmer, I loved flashy codes and designs.
So, in this 2016, I realized it's not about being flashy, but sharing contents that solve people's problems was the main focus of the site.
I logged in with my old account and posted my first thread since 2011 in politics section in May 2016. Before I knew it, people started exchanging uncanny words. I stopped posting.
The month of June (my birth month) arrived and I wanted to deactivate my account. Something said to me, "Instead of blaming Buhari, why not you use your free time and share your Mr. Nice Guy's stories and teach people how you changed from being rejected to being loved by different girls who couldn't get enough."
Na from there I start to dey share stories. As I dey share, I dey explain. Within 3 months on Nairaland, I have written lots of articles with my phone.
I didn't even take it seriously. I was just having fun waiting for Buhari to finish punishing us, then leave Aso Rock to enable progress return for young guys like us to start making clean money again.
Within these 3 months, my fanbase became huge. I couldn't believe it. Since I noticed people loved me, I shared more. Unfortunately, the haters started arriving from Libya. Damn! Some were really harsh on me.
I do get angry with some comments, but decided to keep teaching and sharing for free. I'm not a writer, but a programmer who mastered Mavis Beacon at a teenage age, so typing was extremely easy. It's one of the easiest things I can do and my fingers never get fatigued.
Thanks to my uncle who forced me to learn Mavis else I won't be allowed to touch his computer.
Since the name iLegend was buzzing at the time, lots of great comments and hate comments were made. In percentage, I'd say, the hates were 20% compared to the 80% love I was showered.
I will share some screenshots of some hate comments and some love comments. Do you want me to censor the names of the commentators? I know you don't.
All my threads on Nairaland were getting thousands of views. After posting a thread and getting busy offline, I'll be so apprehensive to check hours later or the next day because I know someone must've said something hurtful.
Out of 100 comments, 20 will be hurtful. Either the commentators hate me or it's because I was taking the show and all attention was on me.
My intentions weren't to take all the attentions, but to share my little stories and help guys for free and nothing more.
I created a thread and a lady said, "Why do people always like your threads? To me, I don't like your threads." To me, her anger was because I gave all my attentions to solving men's problems. This made her think I was a misogynist.
I'll share some screenshots and explain them. Listen: anyone who says something bad against you owes you for life. I'll prove it here so you can use it as a motivation to start your gym exercise.
All my threads were converted to different books. After posting a thread and also announcing I'll be launching a forum to enable us have freedom, the following happened:
Note: I don't hold grudges with any of the below, but those who made bad comments owe me for life. Not a bad debt.
Image 1. For mouth by Hillzy
The above is Hillzy's comment.
Image 2. Your head get oil by Anonymous
The owner of the above comment has deactivated.
Image 3. Hogwash by Cutehector reply by Tafari1
The above is Cutehector calling the post I made names. That particular post has been converted to a book and has been raking in cash. Will the money be called hogcash? People don't cherish free things.
Image 4. Retire by AngelAhnie
The above is a lady called AngelAhnie trying to tell me to retire. I have only been in the forum for at most 4 months. Maybe because the name iLegend was buzzing she thought I have been a regular member who has been posting for years.
Image 5. Boring girlfriend by Dryakson.
The above is Dryakson who used the tip I posted on the thread on his girlfriend and she became lively.
Image 6. Ride on bro by Anonymous2
The above is an encouragement from an anonymous account.
Image 7. Himself by Dfinex
The above is someone who didn't like the fact I was getting too many compliments and praises. Her plan was to kill my mood, but I wasn't moved, so I ignored her.
Image 8. Correct guy by Donokoh
The above is a compliment from Donokoh.
Image 9. Create site and Moderator by NevetsIbot
The above is NevetIbot having fun as he cracks some jokes.
Image 10. Dryclef Cutehector
The above is Cutehector again in another thread when I mentioned the launch of WETCLEF. He called it irresponsible.
Lesson: when you're young, be irresponsible to help you not to inhibit yourself from exploring the unknown.
Being crazy and doing things people don't expect is one of the secrets of young billionaires.
Being responsible too early in life inhibits creativity and adventure. It even makes a man become an introvert and less daring.
Image 11. Chase your dream StephenMorris
The above is Stephenmorris with the chase your dream encouraging words.
Image 12. Why Davido? by Synzu cooked up
The above is Synzu who found the name of one of our books called TheDAVIDO Fùck Guide funny. He requested to know the full meaning and when I told him, he said I cooked up the meaning.
Lesson: most of the things we use today were all cooked up. Men who cooked up things are great today. Men who refused to cook up things are working for people who did the cooking. Isn't catering great? The name Facebook was cooked up.
Twenty years ago, there wasn't a word in the dictionary called Facebook. Mark Zuckerberg cooked it up and now it has been added.
There is nothing like Microsoft. How can a micro be soft? Bill Gate cooked it up and now it's in the dictionary.
This is the same way the title and acronym of the book was cooked up. It's called creativity.
Image 13. Make things happen by Davland
The above is Davland who was happy I was about to launch the site.
Image 14. Hope it fails by KingCheezyPuff
The haters from Libya have arrived. Lol. This is one of my biggest motivations never to let the idea die. Statements like these are money in the bank. They can make a smart man rich or wealthy.
Image 15. I REALLY hope it fails by KingCheezyPuff
I told her I don't fail, learn from anything that looks like failure. She said God won't let it work. If God could let the owner of xvideo make millions, I wonder how he will not allow a guy helping his fellow guys with advice not to succeed.
With the way she behaved, I knew she was a feminist. I cracked some jokes with her and we reconciled. Though, she didn't know her statement will be used positively despite being a negative one.
Image 16. I hope it fails reply by Ucsparks
The above is Ucsparks calling her out for being harsh. To me, she wasn't harsh, but kind. Those are the kinds statements that made me who I am today. They make me stronger and more determined to succeed.
Image 17. You're too good by ceeSleek
Here is ceeSleek bursting my brain with an amazing compliment. A compliment like this is mostly used in books to let others know what other clients are talking about. But the failure wish above this one is the type that motivates me.
Image 18. I derive joy disappointing by Hibiscus76 reply by Rexhenrex.
Here is another lady again in a different thread saying she derives joy disappointing people like me. We later reconciled.
Image 19. Only you by Omuka
Here is Omuka saying I'm the only one who can help him. It's a lie. God is the one, not me. I'm a nobody in the presence of the mighty.
Image 20. Expected better by Sam6055
Here is Sam saying be expected better. I'll seek advice from him to know what he meant. He may have the final secret I'm looking for.
Image 21. Fúck end am by Frozeen
There is a guy talking about Sëx and how everything leads to it. He may be right. Who knows?
Image 22. 4 unit course by VectorMike
Here is Mike saying the thing I taught should be converted to a 4 unit course at the university. That was funny.
More of iLegend by Philoz
Here is Philoz advising guys not to over think it, but follow the advice I shared.
Image 24. Another failed forum by Thebosstrevor
I posted a link and the guy above made that statement. I immediately captured it. Minutes later, the thread was taken down because of scandal between a guy and his girlfriend's leaked nude.
If I may ask him, should people stop using WordPress because someone has used it before? Should a new president build his own government house because using the same house or office as his predecessor unoriginal?
Image 25. Envy by Mizslyviah
Here is Mizslyviah with a quote I love. It was posted in celebrity section.
Image 26. I applied the ESCOFi by Passionate87
The above is Passionate who applied some tips I shared and came to profess how it worked for him.
Image 27. I posted the below design when I was promoting our The Naughty Tiger book...
...but the guy below wrote:
Since I use haters as a promotional and motivational tool, I created a thread to let the world hear what he said. When the drama was over, it was time to listen to him.
I hired the best graphic designer after trying different designers. At the end, he came up with the design below.
Unfortunately, I didn't like it. I instructed him on how clean, simple, yet catchy it should look. At the end, he came up with the design below and I loved it.
So, it's good to have critics or haters — they bring out the best in people despite having bad intentions towards the person they're attacking.
Image 28. Impressed by Sunkoye
This is Sunkoye. He was impressed by my attitude of not reacting negatively to all the negative comments I got. He doesn't know I love those negative comments more.
Image 29. Making money by Ikennablue
Finally, this is the comment that made me to start charging money after threaten to do so but didn't. Luckily, I started charging money and I must confess, it never runs dry and never will. I'm glad I listened.
What have you learned from this post?
For me, I learned.
1. No pain, no gain.
2. Even if you're the best, don't expect everyone to say good things about you.
3. People want you to fail not because they hate you, but because they haven't succeeded.
4. Most great things today were all cooked up in the brain and brought to life as an invention or innovation, so learn to cook up something that'll help humanity.
5. Keep it simple and don't worry too much.
6. Negative comments are the secrets of real motivations.
7. Positive comments are just affirmations.
8. Don't forget those who made negative comments — they're the best.
9. Don't forget those who made positive comments — they're your affirmations.
10. Forget those who never cared. They don't exist.
11. Turn your fun to money.
12. Don't reveal everything, but enough.
13. Do it with a pain-filled passion.
Let your pains guide you to success — be it in body building, school, height, dating, stature, heartbreak, rejection, complexion, looks, finance, depression, frustration, sickness, relationships, suicidal thoughts, work place, intimidation by others, abuse, bully, business, travel, failure, etc. Let your pain guide you.
So, the reason Wetclef was born was the day I created a thread and was complaining of my threads not making front page.
Someone angrily replied, "If you don't like this forum go and create your own and stop disturbing us with your complaints."
The person thought I will be angry, but didn't know he has just given me the painful motivational boost I needed.
Out of seven different books I converted my threads to, I used the initial letters of each book's name to form the mnemonic called WETCLEF.
The W stands for a book called WooTalks.
The E stands for a book called ESCOFi.
The T stands for a book called TheDAVIDO.
The C stands for a book called ChatDicted.
The L stands for a book called LastLong.
The E stands for a book called ERa.
The F stands for a book called FemaleSextapes.
Those were the books that gave us the mnemonic called WETCLEF.
Remember: Take advantage of negativity and let your pains guide you to success. If no one hurts you, it means no one cares, then look for trouble until someone does. Now, capitalize on the pain to the top of the plane. See you at the top. Do It NOW! Clef on!
Joe Clef, 2018.
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