Hello Clefer, I have this disturbing relationship ache that I wish I can get wise instructive advice on. I have been on with a lady for about 2 months now and things seem not to be going right.
In this 2 months, our conversation hasn't gone beyond mere friends.
How do you do?
Have you eaten today?
When I try to take things further, she nags. I tried pushing things forward a bit, but she isn't cut for that.
Though,.when we had a date, she finally accepted my proposal of going beyond friendship and (now we're in a dating mode), but I tell you nothing had changed in our discussion mode.
Let me give an example of how our discussion dovetails most of the time:
Me: How're you doing today?
Me: (Explained in full detail how my day went) by this time, I've typed 10 lines on WhatsApp.
Me: Just tease me about how your day went?
Her: I've told you now. Good.
Me: You mean nothing really happened in the 24 hours?
Her: Goodbye. We chat later.
I have tried to figure out if it's my fault why she isn't discussing with me and the response I got is I'm pestering her.
I withdrew a bit to give a space for a while. After 5 days without getting any call from her, I called to ask why and her response was "nothing."
I've complained about this and it seems I'm to pushy. She hardly initiates conversation. When she does, it'll be "I just want to know if everything is ok."
I'll respond by calling her back and explained fully — talking on the phone more than 5 minutes, explaining my day to her, but her response will be "Ok."
Within this short period, I've spent close to ₦15K on her. Mind you, no Sëx. I wouldn't even subscribe to it. Though, the money isn't a problem to me. My concern is, from the look of things, would you say she's into me or just using me as a cash cow?