People will always talk about others. If nobody talks, life will be too boring for everybody. Gossip is fun and people can't help but talk about other people. So, endure. To make a girl comfortable and confident around you, you must be vulnerable. If you're perfect, then she will never be comfortable or confident around you. Imagine you're tall, muscular, handsome, intelligent, humble, endowed, and rich. Which girl do you expect to be comfortable around you?
Just by being averagely handsome can make most girls act shy around you let alone all the features above. To make a girl comfortable, you must not be perfect. The trick is to learn how to make fun of yourself in some cases. Don't take yourself too seriously neither should you underrate yourself. When you crack a joke at your expense, she will laugh at you and that will loosen her up and make her comfortable and confident. As you diss yourself, you can also diss her so she'll know it's a 50/50 thing. Making a woman comfortable and confident is easy. All you need are:
2. Personal diss.
3. Having fun mixed with some seriousness.
Note: If you make a woman too comfortable around you, a time will come when you'll lose your value in her eyes, so don't make them too comfortable - leave an air of mysteries to keep some butterflies in their stomach and this will help keep the love and attraction forever alive.